The Wolf Pack. Don’t Miss It.   (click for a trailer to this film)header

This film  is a strange tale of a family that lives on New York’s Lower East Side. Crystal Moselle has put together her first film, a documentary about six brothers (and a sister) who are raised by their Peruvian father, who happens to be a Hare Krishna, and American mother who home schools them. The only experience they had with the outside world came from watching movies. The father was totally distressed by life as he saw it on the streets of New York and felt that the only way to protect his children was to isolate them from the outside world. Yet he allowed and encouraged them to watch movies. And movies became the most important thing in their lives.

Even though the boys were raised in such an isolated situation—their father was the only family member who had a key to the low-rent apartment where the family lived on welfare—they came across as sensitive, sophisticated, articulate, and extremely creative. The boys eventually started to get out of the apartment and that is when they were seen by Ms. Moselle. They were visually very stunning and she was curious about their story. She was allowed into their world and the result was this beautiful movie. So, the boys who were so enthralled with movies are now in a movie about themselves. I love that.

I highly recommend this film, especially if you like documentaries about out of the ordinary people.

Juana Cata…Immortalized by a Huge Statue

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This enormous metal statue of Juana Catalina Romero, the heroine of Tehuántepec, known simply as Juana Cata.

This statue stands guard at the entrance of Tehuántepec, a small town in southern Oaxaca. Juana Cata was a woman of power and of fashion. Her style inspired the looks of Frida Kahlo, and the women of southern Oaxaca still dress in the same manner, an homage to her memory and to feminism in Mexico. She devoted herself to helping the people of Tehuántepec, and her legend lives on there. This statue celebrates the woman who was romantically involved with, and strongly influenced, Presidente Porfirio Diaz during the Mexican Civil War. Her presence was so powerful that the town of Tehuántepec remains a matriarchy and women rule the town.

Connections…a great part of life


My husband, Fred, with our “son”, Andrew Pentecost, and our “son-in-law,” Kyle Brougham, after a lovely brunch at Balthazar.

When I think of the word “connect”, I think of connections with other people. One of life’s greatest treasures is the people we connect with. Fred and I have become deeply connected to Andrew Pentecost and his fiancé, Kyle Brougham. I met Andrew a few years ago when he did makeup for my dear friend Arnold  Myint/Suzy Wong. (I could also write a book about my connection with Arnold.) Somehow, in some organic way, Andrew and I became very close friends. At some point we realized that our relationship had evolved into something closely resembling Mother/Son. Fred and I have no children, but if we did, I think Andrew could easily be that child. We are so happy that Andrew has also made a connection with Kyle, a wonderful guy that we enjoy spending time with. So, the four of us have become a little family unit. Andrew and I remain very close, and we frequently take some time for just the two of us. He is like my therapist, and I think I play that role for him as well.

This photo was taken by me last Spring when the four of us met in New York. I am hoping that in the future we will have many adventures together in lots of places. Of course, we are also hoping that Marriage Equality will become universal, as these two guys were definitely made for each other. And, like any “Mom,” I want my son to be happy.

Age is an Attitude, not a Number.

P1090282 Pinky and I on the beach, shortly before my 71st birthday. Life is a Journey…come along for the ride. The blogging project with WordPress continues. The assignment for this blog post was to write a post for someone who is your “perfect audience.” That is a little hard for me to define, as my blog touches on many subjects. I think my answer is that my perfect audience is a person who can see me in my 70’s as an inspiration that getting older doesn’t have to suck. I am pretty serious about enjoying my life as much as possible. My blog covers my adventures, whether that involves living in Mexico or simply making a wonderful meal, and I hope to have lots of adventures in the days to come. I think one of the secrets to keeping life interesting is simply to keep life interesting. That’s what makes a person of any age attractive. I try not to think of myself as “retired.” I really don’t like that word.  I was a jewelry designer for 30 years and I didn’t start that career until I was forty. I was quite intense about it and in many ways what I did defined who I was. Since selling the business 2 1/2 years ago it has been a bit difficult for me to adjust and reinvent myself. That project of self-invention and reinvention is not finished and it never will be. However, the fact that I have stopped working has been very freeing to me. I would like to think I am incubating my next chapter. And this chapter involves doing things just for the joy of doing them. (How nice not to be concerned about selling something to someone). I frequently hear people who are much, much younger than me grousing around about how “old” they are. “I’m so old!” is not uncommon for me to hear from the mouths of those whose adulthood is pretty much just beginning. I find that when I tell people how old I am, they sometimes seem surprised and react by saying that they had thought I was much younger. Guess what…I think I’m much younger, too. And, that’s the secret. I have never said to anyone, “I am getting old.” I never think about whether something is “age appropriate” or not. I just think about if it is comfortable for me…whether it is something I am going to wear, or a situation I am going to be in. I am the first to admit that I am motivated to look and feel as good as I possibly can. I am careful about what I eat, I exercise, and I do the maintenance things (within reason) that are available to me. But, the main thing, and the most important thing, is that I simply will not talk about “getting old.” I won’t indulge in those conversations. I don’t want to listen to anyone else talk about “getting old.” Especially not if you are 25 years younger than me! I do hope I find my “perfect audience”—-someone who enjoys my posts and takes away a bit of inspiration—whether it’s for a good vegetarian meal, a trip to Mexico, or opening their minds to the fascinating diversity of humanity.